Wonderhell: Why Success Isn’t What It Should Be
SUCCESS is not a destination but a journey. And each success opens another door to our potential. Success is great, but when we think we’ve reached the top, we feel the burden of being invited to take another step toward our newfound potential. We are at what Laura Gassner Otting introduced Wonderhell.
Wonderhell is the place between who you are and who you are. The incredible excitement of who you are and the burden (hell) of realizing who you are.
on Wonderhell: Why Success Doesn’t Feel Like It Should . . . and What to Do About It, Otting presents the ride of your life like entering an amusement park—Wonderhell. And every success invites us back to the entrance to ride again.
When we think we can rest in our past, we are invited to a future of new opportunities. We enter the Imaginarium, and we will see the new life we want to have. It’s bigger and bolder, and we’re going in Impostertown. Who am I to take this next step? Who am I? Otting wisely points out that we are not what we think we are. We are not what others think. We are who WE think others think we are.
It’s time to face our inner voice. “Standing on the edge of our incompetence” can make us panic and feel like an impostor. “You can run from this fear. You can hide from this future. You can lie to yourself about what you want. Many people do this, swallowing that dream into their stomach, where it turns into a cancerous lamentation, corruptingly masquerading as weakness, discontent, or worse, prudence.”
In Impostertown we see the psychic and enters the Hall of MirrorsTHE Tent of Odditiesand the Haunted House. We can learn to create our own luck, let go of things that hold us back, and turn our limitations into invitations. Stick to the facts. They are bigger than our emotions. “The more we observe and absorb information about a potential change, the more we begin to understand how to make that change happen,” and create our own luck.
Once we get rid of that internal voice in our head that limits us, we go inside Doubtsville. We face uncertainty, discomfort, and doubt about our new potential. It was a roller coaster of emotions. You’re never ready. Control what you can control and take the first step. Accountability encourages.
Most of the fear and anxiety comes from all the outside voices. In Doubstville, we learned to set boundaries about who we listen to. We raise the voice of those who believe in us and lower the voice of those who only see our mistakes and obstacles. “Have a family member who is always worried that you are too dangerous? Share some details of your plan once you have it in place. Remember: most people who are busy sharing opinions don’t have time to do so when they are as busy as you are, fulfilling their own goals. ” Who do you need to have on your team?
You’re on your way, but there’s another dimension to the amusement park: Burnout City. “Wonderhell is not just a place you visit once. If you have a vision (and the stomach for following it), you can come back again. Expect this journey back—and even welcome it!—and you’ll live to tell the tale. But his key is not only to survive Wonderhell. Your goal is to improve it.”
You may be tempted to hold on to where you are, but that will slowly steal your wonder and leave you with nothing but hell.
Carrying out the same roles and responsibilities over and over again—even if it brings you greater and greater success—leaves you with nothing but emptiness and exhaustion.
If it sounds familiar, it’s time to break the monotony and step into the unknown. Say goodbye to your past success, and get ready to jump out of that perfectly functional-but-fully automated plane. Increase the challenge. Create a new offering. Or put your parachute on and move on.
Understanding how the rides work can reduce our stress and help us enjoy the ride. When we’re in Wonderhell, we’re on the right track to living up to our potential.
Whether you have a dream, a plan, a demon, a potential, or an unshakable goal that excites you and terrifies you at the same time, Otting offers the Wonderhell Quiz to find a way through it.
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